Foreplay: How to Get Yourself in the Mood!

Preface

From tender kisses to hot blowjobs, from foot massages to washing the dishes – foreplay can have many facets. And it should, because the same old warm-up routine can get a bit boring over time. With our tips, ideas, and little helpers, you can create exciting foreplay that’s anything but predictable.

Foreplay – Tips for You

Exchanging affection before actual intercourse is at least as important as the sex itself. Although a quickie where you get straight to the point can be refreshing, sex is only complete if the foreplay is right. Unfortunately, at the end of a long day, there’s often only time and energy left for a quickie, leaving togetherness and tenderness by the wayside. But that’s precisely what a healthy relationship thrives on.

Many couples even experience the overture as a much more intimate affair than the main act. Besides ecstasy and highs, it’s all about bonding, love, and affection. And what better way to demonstrate this than through tender foreplay?

Away with the Clichés!

Long foreplay is something both of you can enjoy. It helps you unwind, for example, after a long, stressful day at work, and slowly get into the mood. If your mind is still on the last meeting during sex, you won’t be able to fully let go during sex. Foreplay also awakens desire, because anticipation is the greatest pleasure! An orgasm is great, but it’s only a small and brief part of the pleasure…

Foreplay Begins Outside the Bedroom

If you want to f***, you have to be friendly. This saying probably belongs more on the T-shirts of young partygoers, but it’s true! Foreplay is always about seduction, and seduction can be achieved with words and/or actions outside of bed. A good conversation, laughing together, a sweet—and sincere—compliment, or supporting each other around the house or in difficult situations is a real aphrodisiac. On the other hand, if you leave your loved one alone with a lot of work to do, you shouldn’t be surprised if things get a bit lull in the bedroom.

For good foreplay and even better sex, it also helps to create a comfortable atmosphere. There don’t have to be rose petals on the floor, but soft lighting, fresh linens, and a comfortable room temperature go a long way.

No Textbook Foreplay

There are no specific guidelines for foreplay regarding how it should go or how long it should last. Longer isn’t always better. What’s most important is that you feel closeness and each other’s bodies, explore each other, and get in the mood. Some people need half an hour for this, while others are fine with 10 minutes. Some prefer to bring each other to the brink of orgasm during foreplay, while others just cuddle and kiss until the desire for more is aroused. Still others like it a little more or less.

Ideas for a Perfect Foreplay

Nevertheless, there are a few things that are ideal for exciting foreplay. Besides kissing, cuddling, and caressing, there’s so much more… We’ll give you suggestions and ideas for what you can incorporate into your foreplay and how you can perhaps make it excitingly different. Often, especially in long-term relationships, a routine warm-up routine creeps in, which is worth breaking from now and again.

On a Journey of Discovery

The human body has numerous erogenous zones – and these aren’t limited to the intimate area. During foreplay, include the soles of the feet, the inner thighs, the nipples, the neck and throat, and the ears – from gentle kisses to nibbling, anything goes. Let your hands and lips wander all over your babe’s body before moving on to the actual pleasure center. Did you know that the hairline and nostrils are also particularly sensitive to touch?

Here you’ll find more information and vivid illustrations of all the erogenous zones of the human body.

See Nothing, Hear Nothing, Feel a LOT

One of you lets the other blindfold you and your partner blindfold you. Those who want it to be particularly intense can also cover their ears with headphones or earplugs so that the passive partner can’t hear, see, or move. This exercise requires a lot of trust, but promises explosive feelings during lovemaking. The feeling of surrendering and surrendering to your babe’s unexpected touches will make your heart race and your desire boil over.

Hands Off!

For once, forgo using your hands completely during lovemaking. Run your lips, tongue, feet, or nose over your babe’s body. Skin-to-skin, the touch becomes even more intense, as skin is our largest sensory organ. When it touches, the relaxation hormones oxytocin and prolactin are released. You can also run your nipples over your erogenous zones. To prevent cheating, you can also tie the passive partner’s hands.

And if your babe is already forbidden from touching you, you can also drive her crazy with visual stimuli. Stretch out naked on the bed while your partner can only watch. If you want to go one step further, you can touch yourself and masturbate in front of your lover.

Attractive

Seduce your babe with a striptease and let your clothes fall off with pleasure. Pretty lingerie can help you feel more desirable and confident. If you’re hesitant about a striptease, you can also surprise her in high heels and with a bodysuit that’s hidden beneath your clothes and will amaze her when you unwrap it.

Deep Massage

An intensive massage with warming, fragrant massage oil gets the blood flowing. When you’re finished with your babe’s back, don’t stop! The love muscles below the belt deserve to be pampered too! Of course, small helpers can also be used for a stimulating massage. A massage stone can be heated or cooled, making the massage easier for the person giving the massage. The toys from the Mix & Match Set by Ooh by Je Joue send stimulating vibrations to all external hotspots like the nipples, inner thighs, clitoris, or glans.

Words Instead of Actions

Foreplay doesn’t always have to be about touch. Sometimes words speak louder than actions, because dirty talk is a popular way to get the other person—and yourself—in the mood. It can start over the phone by sending each other sexy messages like: “I want to feel you inside me today!” This form of dirty talk is called sexting.

If you don’t want to get into an erotic exchange, you can approach the topic very gently. Simply whisper in your partner’s ear what’s going on inside you or what’s about to happen.

You can find more inspiration for stimulating dirty talk and a few tips on how to learn it in our article.

Handmade

A handjob is a popular part of foreplay for many people. If you’re already a bit into it, you can pamper each other with your hands – one after the other or simultaneously. It’s best to lie opposite each other in bed and bend one leg so that everything is easily accessible. Important: The vulva doesn’t appreciate dry touches! Always moisten your fingers slightly beforehand or use her natural vaginal secretions before touching the sensitive clitoris. The penis can often be massaged a little more vigorously. However, this only applies to the shaft. The sensitive glans should also be worked on sensitively.

Since this is meant to be foreplay, there’s no happy ending to this handjob – initially. So, only bring each other almost to orgasm – more often if you want – and then cool off by slowing down or stopping altogether.

Blow Your Mind

A blowjob is a foreplay highlight for many. To do so, firmly wrap your lips around the penis and let it plunge deep into your mouth. Press the glans against the roof of your mouth and then expel the air from your mouth, creating a vacuum. If you now play with his glans and frenulum with quick tongue movements, your babe will hardly be able to contain herself. But people with vulvas also enjoy oral sex! In our article on cunnilingus & co., you’ll find step-by-step instructions for blowjobs and lick jobs, as well as other oral sex techniques for advanced users.

The 69 position, in which both partners pleasure each other orally at the same time, can also be appealing for intense foreplay. Incidentally, the general rule is: the more stimulating the foreplay, the more intense the orgasm during sex.

Toy Inspirations for the Perfect Foreplay

Sex toys add a playful element to foreplay – and that’s exactly what it’s all about: playing. Some little helpers that can make your foreplay even more varied and exciting are presented in this episode of the Lovesvibe Love Lounge, which is all about foreplay. Four women, a box full of sex toys, and brutally honest conversations.